Certain verses started to get my attention as I sought the Lord. But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you." (Mat.
), "Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth." (Col.
Date lots of people and get to know what I liked and didn't like in men and ultimately in a future husband. Go out in groups, double dates, and circumstances that allow you to talk in safe environments.
I followed his advice some of the time, but I can now say as an adult woman that I agree with him completely.
Maybe we should instead be seeking to transform ourselves into Godly men and women, and then go from there.
It's ironic the many parents from the Christian 'boomer' generation are very disillusioned with dating and enthusiastic about courtship, while many Christian young adults of the 'millennial' generation are very turned off by courtship, seeing it as legalistic and having a 'sheltered feeling.' Just from the girls' side, I think a lot of women are insecure and have difficulty seeing themselves as beautiful and valuable without being attached to a man.
" This question haunted me for a little while, for I knew that He was asking me to trust Him with the question of marriage.
Nevertheless, I had never heard of anyone doing such and did not know exactly how to go about doing it. However, I knew that God wanted to take me to a deeper walk with Him.
Relationships and marriage are best, but that doesn't mean that single is 'second-rate.'" ----- "Looking at this as a Christian single man, 34 years of age, the problem is not being picky and waiting for someone better ...
Here, for Valentine's Day, are excerpts from some: "My college friends and I didn't date. Many had that fear in the back of our heads that if we didn't find the one during college, we never would. We and dozens of our friends found great Christian men who, outside of the pressures of the Christian college dating scene, confidently pursued us and asked us out, knowing that it might not work out.
In most cases, it did, because we finally had a healthy perspective on dating-which was to follow God's leading, and not the long lists of expectations we discussed in 'dorm Bible studies.'...
I had only been saved for a little while when the Lord dealt with me.
"Ellen, will you put your dating life on the altar?