In the meantime, my very large Jewish family was already all married and well on their way to having lots and lots of children, and I felt like I was under tremendous peer pressure to get my life going already.So I have two possible strategies at this point I'm sort of figuring out.These algorithms had a sea full of men that wanted to take me out on lots of dates — what turned out to be truly awful dates. He was ordering multiple appetizers, multiple entrées, for me as well, and suddenly there are piles and piles of food on our table, also lots and lots of bottles of wine. These algorithms were doing exactly what they were designed to do, which was to take our user-generated information, in my case, my résumé, and match it up with other people's information. So there's a certain amount of superficiality in that data. I'm going to keep using these online dating sites, but I'm going to treat them as databases, and rather than waiting for an algorithm to set me up, I think I'm going to try reverse-engineering this entire system.So we're nearing the end of our conversation and the end of dinner, and I've decided Steve the I. guy and I are really just not meant for each other, but we'll part ways as friends, when he gets up to go to the bathroom, and in the meantime, the bill comes to our table. See, the real problem here is that, while the algorithms work just fine, you and I don't, when confronted with blank windows where we're supposed to input our information online. So knowing that there was superficial data that was being used to match me up with other people, I decided instead to ask my own questions.Very few of us have the ability to be totally and brutally honest with ourselves. What was every single possible thing that I could think of that I was looking for in a mate?The other problem is that these websites are asking us questions like, are you a dog person or a cat person? So I started writing and writing and writing, and at the end, I had amassed 72 different data points.
I am constantly swimming in numbers, formulas and charts.
It is easy to show that these are not universal results.
Tinder did something similar in 2016 and their findings for the most right-swiped jobs are surprisingly different.
It's possible women want someone who can cook for them or recite poems at a drop of a hat, or maybe these professions are seen as a sign of a passionate and caring individual.
In the same way, men might not want hairdressers or nurses for a free haircut or sexual fantasies, but appreciate how skilled and dedicated these women must be.