When someone we care about tries to pull away from us, it’s a natural reaction to want to cling tighter, to stop them from leaving. When other people come to us with their problems it’s usually quite simple for us to spot the obvious and recommend a solution, mainly because we have nothing invested and our emotional state is neutral.
You keep trying to convince him that you are worthy: You are constantly jumping through hoops trying to please him.
Of course he knew that by acting that way it would upset me and cause me to back off.
Of course he knew he was killing all chances of having a relationship with me.
There is so much attention given to spotting a Narcissist and whether, or not, you might be involved with one.
But there is a much more accurate barometer, and that is – our own behavior.