They often never progress beyond the courting stage.As observed by Clinical Psychologist Dr Stuart Fischoff; “The love object is almost irrelevant at this point.And I'll go on being a lost soul." On the other side of the pond, psychopathic mass murderer Charles Manson recently called off the wedding to his pen pal, Afton-Elaine Burton after discovering that she was secretly ordering a glass coffin for her intended, with a view to charging spectators after his death.Cavendish believes it to be a highly complex issue and agrees that major factors to consider are dependency and control; “Dependence works both ways - financial for many prisoners, particularly those who don't have family ties, as well as emotional.” With regards to the type of women who write to prisoners; “I'll be honest and say that a fair few of the female correspondents are lonely women who often have body-image concerns (many of those whose photos I've seen tend to be overweight.) They feel perhaps that a prisoner is likely to be less judgmental and more appreciative of any support - emotional and/or financial.” For these women, connecting with a man who is locked up for the majority of the day with little else to occupy his time, you’d be forgiven for assuming that the inmate has no choice but to remain faithful.Many women (and men) choose to reach out simply to provide friendship and compassion to those behind bars.Their actions provide a much welcome lifeline, a window to the outside world.Georgina Rigby was 28 and working in the field of drug misuse when an inmate contacted her.
I’ve met straight young prisoners who are keen to find male ‘sugar daddies’ willing to fund their tobacco or drug habits whilst inside.” Yet it would be wrong to claim that all inmates exploit the situation and all pen pals on the outside are lonely and looking for love.A representative for the "Basic Instinct" star refuted the dating speculation, reported E!News, "They were out with mutual friends and were introduced. A representative for Loeb also denied that the businessman was seeing the 56-year-old actress.I could tell that having a sympathetic woman to write to made him feel good, and no doubt gave him some fantasy material. "Thinking about it now, several years later, the letters allowed me to be intimate at a distance.To be my ‘best self’ without the physical and personal flaws that he'd encounter face to face.” For those who instigate and sustain a relationship with a man imprisoned for a lengthy period of time, physical contact is obviously limited.