After each four-minute speed date, participants filled out a survey letting the scientists know if they felt a connection, and whether they'd like a real date.
Women, it turned out, were more selective about who they said they'd clicked with — but the men they did feel a connection with used appreciative ("That's awesome") and sympathetic ("That must be tough") language.
These studies, surveys, and experts can help us all figure out what works — and maybe even up our chances.
With the caveats that some of these findings are difficult to generalize and none of this advice will help you meet your soulmate tomorrow, here are seven science-backed dating tips.
You'll talk a little more, laugh a little more, and ease up on the awkwardness.
It's also not a huge investment in terms of time or money.
" — researchers asked a question that's been haunting daters since probably forever: If self-assuredness is an attractive quality, how do insecure people date successfully?A 2013 Stanford study published in the American Journal of Sociology analyzed almost 1,000 dates to figure out what makes people click.The researchers set up a series of speed dating events for Stanford graduate students, recorded each individual date, and used software to analyze those conversations.If you wait a whole month, your chances go down by almost a fifth.They also found that people who were already chatting with someone were more likely to respond to messages from other people — "activity begets more activity," in the words of the researchers.