Let's be clear about something that should be common sense. If you're in such a situation (and I've had many clients who were), you are not helpless. Instead, plan a party to which you will each invite some of your oldest and closest friends.Unless you're making a fool of yourself chasing someone who doesn't care about you, the feelings in your deepening relationship should be mutual. If he or she refuses to cooperate or claims he or she has no friends to invite, see "Your Last Recourse" below. Make sure the party's large enough so that it's sure to break up into several conversation groups.Even if a person seems to meet all your criteria and they appear to be someone you could take home to meet your family, you're still wasting your time if they're not ready for a commitment, whatever the reason is.
If it doesn't jibe or his friends are vague and unspecific, it's time to go on red alert.It's all too easy to fall for a cute face or a sexy body and wind up with a time-waster, or in crazy love, or even in a bad marriage.And if "The Pitfalls of Cyberlove" have clouded your judgement before you even meet the other person, you're in even more danger.I'm starting to get pretty involved with her (him) and I wondered if you had any words of wisdom or warning for me..." They may not want to talk, or you may not believe much of what they tell you, but whatever happens, you'll learn something.Pass on anyone you can't trust or about whom you hear horrible stories from more than one source.