Her “ego defense” mechanisms are too strong and the anger and habits relating to love are too deep to justify a real relationship. However, a low t-bar all by itself is not necessarily trouble. So, if you are dating a “game player” with anti-social y’s, you might get emotionally involved and he will not. (Same thing for a man with these traits.) Hey, if you want to just have some fun… If you see that, the issues are a lack of “love” and an inability to trust, which relate to being “unlovable,” not necessarily to self-esteem. Signifies a need for a challenge and a deep-seeded resentment toward strong members of the opposite sex. But this is the “hostile” defense mechanism that can cut you if used to cover up real anger or deep insecurities. When I see this, I feel sorry for the person because he or she is unable to give and receive love easily.
you have discovered “big trouble waiting to a happen.” My advice. Even if the woman has a core of pure child-like love, it is obviously masked with so much anger and baggage, you would have to dig for years to see the light of that sweet girl inside. It is possible to have “big trouble” with good self-esteem. T-bars slanting down are a need for control which, essentially, is a FEAR of not being in control. Therefore, in a dating situation, this person will avoid intimacy as long as possible.
I’ve always been known as a Boston athlete, and this is one way I could become a New Yorker.” Other than the occasional mention of it as a celebrity hot spot, I couldn’t find anything else on it (other than a big gay protest that went down in 1990 due to a “straights only” policy). It’s hard to imagine the hippest of hip New Yorkers going down to the South Street Seaport for a party venue. Fifth & Madison) Status: Gone (1984 – 1998) Replaced by: Amaranth Restaurant How To Secure A Reservation: Four empty tables at lunch time suggest you should be OK History: I honestly couldn’t hope to write anything as unbelievably eloquent as the NY Times’ 1994 review of Arcadia, which says it all: Arcadia is lovely at dinner, but at lunchtime it is almost magical.
The restaurant is small and cozy, the walls wrapped in a woodsy mural by Paul Davis that defines the space as a place where time does not count.
If you ever dined/partied at any, please leave your memories in the comments! 27th & 28th Streets) Status: Gone (1987-2001) Replaced By: ENK-NYC (a design collective) How To Secure A Reservation: Don’t need one – just check the site for retail shows History: Tunnel was built in an enormous warehouse that trains once passed through in the early 1900’s on their way to the 11th avenue freight line.
Goods were loaded or unloaded here before freight cars were floated across the Hudson to New Jersey.