Even on sites such as Ok Cupid, which are friendly to bisexuals, people who identify as bisexual report that they either get pursued as “bisexual unicorns,” or bisexual third partners for hetero couples looking for a threesome, or they get stigmatized by gay or straight people who reject their bisexuality.Different sexual communities can also have varying levels of acceptance of bisexuality.But, the most clear, consistent finding across all recent research is that bisexuals are “invisible.” Bisexuals tend to be far less “out” or public about their sexuality than gay peers.“Bisexual erasure” is the term used to describe the process whereby groups, including both heterosexuals and homosexuals, can deny a person’s bisexuality.” “People are so unfamiliar with bisexuals its not as widley accepted. I wish in person but usually on an app” Consistent with research on the stigma towards male bisexuals, numerous respondents described that they tended to have separate relationships, either male-male, or male-female.When I find a partner they are usually straight or gay. Male sex partners were easily found on sites such as Grindr, but these men often kept their same sex behaviors secret, due to fears of rejection or judgment from female partners: “It's acceptable for females to go both ways, guys not so much.Bisexual research participants have been found by researchers, using Craigslist Personals ads, or even ads on social media sites such as Tumblr, where bisexual and sexually-fluid porn found a niche. ” (not a safe work google search mind you, the acronym stands for F#*$ Yeah, Friendly Fire!
However, it is clear that the impact and pressures of bisexual secrecy, invisibility and erasure continue to have a substantial effect, notably upon bisexual men, and bisexual women who are interested in more than “unicorn” status.
22 (12%) found bisexual partners through their social lives, and 57 (32%) found bisexual partners through online means, including sites such as Tumblr, Craigslist or hookup apps.
Respondents made numerous comments such as “It’s difficult through any means, but online is easiest;” “I’ve not been able to find any bisexual partners willing to share,” “Relationships tend to block bisexual behavior;” “It’s hard to be up front with it,” and “I try to meet likeminded partners online but it’s difficult!
But, in recent months, Craigslist personals ads were shut down to legal concerns, and Tumblr, along with other social media platforms, recently began shutting down many sex-oriented sites, including FYFF! Respondents were largely bisexual, or sexually fluid males, but we had 177 respondents.
Of them, over half (91) responded that it was extremely difficult for them to find bisexuals as partners.