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(1 Corinthians 4:2) Model the trustworthiness of God in leadership to encourage and develop trustworthiness in others. Communicate truthfully and discreetly when asked about individuals with destructive or sinful behavior patterns.Tell the truth, or remain discreetly silent: “A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret” (Proverbs ).“Needless to say, they looked disappointed when I told them I had no children and was not married.” While there are more second career individuals becoming pastors later in life than before, there are also more unmarried or divorced individuals in ordained ministry than previous generations.While I applaud this new trend of diversity in ministry, the reality can also be hard for single ministers who are more inclined to feel isolated and lonely in their call.Avoid taking advantage of the vulnerabilities of others through exploitation or manipulation.

Do not recruit parishioners from a previous church without permission from the pastor.Identify a minister/counselor who can provide personal counseling and advice when needed.Develop an awareness of personal needs and vulnerabilities.And sadly, while many churches may be open to having an unmarried person as their pastor, many churches have a hard time giving up the fantasy of calling a young pastor (with a baby in hand!) who will enter their church with an equally enthusiastic spouse and together, their young family will save their church by bringing in “the young people.” Another friend of mine, a 35-year-old woman who is a pastor of a small rural church, shared her painful story about not only being single in ministry, but also being divorced.

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