To really make love to someone is to enjoy every single inch of them." Raul Quintero spoke to me about what happens when the search for that feeling of being appreciated for your size can go to extremes.
The first time he saw someone living a life that he hoped to live one day was in a church youth group he attended. He was stunned."I hated that I was so shocked by that," he said.Gabe, a Wisconsin resident and Midwesterner since birth, said growing up and entering the gay community meant learning quickly that there are schema for acceptable, normal bodies: the cis hairless twink, the sorta-hairy hunk or the gym bunny.And, growing into his gay identity has meant refusing to hold standards put upon him by his own community. " Even more surprising to Gabe than finding a role model was the first time someone called him sexy."Once you do that, you take the power away from somebody else.Now, it's not the elephant in the room anymore." Colón said that his confidence with being his own weight has put him in a position to be a lot of people's "first fat experience." And, it also attracts a lot of what men of size would call "chubby chasers." As long as they're respectful, Colón is a fan.