To put it more simply, they constantly obsess over what they don’t have.Some sort of a covetous behavior perhaps.” I completely agree with him.As journalist Belgin Tan says in his satirical blog in , the “independent attitudes [of foreign women] add to the challenge factor, it makes a man want to compete.Because they have freedom to select, to be selected by one of them makes the guy more of a hero, a winner, a champion.” Let’s go back to my single friend: Turkish men just assumed she would be up for anything because she is half-English and would get furious with her if she would turn them down.He justified watching and sharing the video by saying this: “This is not private but public, because he was not with his wife. We cannot view adulterers as victims.” The question begets why the Turkish government is so obsessed with sex.
A few months ago, as reported in , the Deputy Prime Minister Bülent Arınç was up in arms about what he termed “moral corruption.” Besides making such ridiculous statements as “women shouldn’t talk about unnecessary things on the phone,” he also claimed that TV shows have turned youth into “sex addicts,” and encouraged men to not be “womanizers” and be more “chaste.” Late last year, Erdoğan went on record about an opposition leader’s affair, which was caught on tape.
A Turkish male friend once told me that one night stands are not really a thing, and especially not for women (no big surprise there).
Another Turkish male friend told me that although men and women can be friends, growing up in large mixed-sex friendships groups is a lot less common than in other parts of the world.
The consequences of this conservative view of sex are dire—for both men and women.
Growing up, men believe that women are sacred prizes to firstly win, marry, bed, and then—as sexual freedom is not encouraged and many men and women from more conservative families will sleep with no one before they get married—cheat on.