"If you don't have any phone chemistry, then it's unlikely that there will be a spark in person," says Spira. Gonzaga, "and since you both probably have to get back to work, there's a specified end time if the date doesn't work out." Spira prefers dinner dates because the extended length can give you a deeper sense of your date's personality.
If you show up and your date looks nothing like his photo––and this does happen––don't run screaming for the exit.
The shortest messages get the best response rate; the reply rate goes down as messages get longer.
This is likely because an initial message serves mostly to make your profile available to the other person.
"If you play games and wait to get back to him, he may have already run off into the sunset with someone else," says Spira.
Until you've had a conversation about retiring your profiles, says Spira, assume that he is still dating other people. Spira employs a buddy system for initial meet-ups: Tell a friend where you're going and whom you're meeting. Be Patient If at first you don't succeed, don't give up!
Midway through the meal, go to the bathroom and call or text your friend to let him or her know whether you're OK or feel uncomfortable. Even if sparks don't fly with someone you initially meet online, it doesn't mean that he won't turn into a great friend or helpful business contact.
"Your primary photo should be all about you." She recommends posting between three to five photos only—any more and "it's as if you're already smothering your future partner." Also, be sure to include a shot where you can see your body.
It doesn't have to be provocative (and you most certainly do not have to have a perfect figure!