Initially we had web cams, I got rid of mine, he still had his and just put it away a couple months ago (5).I had always wondered why he kept it set up right next to his computer when we didn’t use it anymore with each other.I just don’t know how to handle this whole thing, I love him dearly and it hurts very badly...He’s got so many good qualities and in my heart I feel as though he truly loves me, would never hurt me, but-I know I’ve babbled, I just wanted to make sure everything was clear. On one hand, your boyfriend has been turning to other women for sexual gratification—leaving you feeling hurt, betrayed and rejected.Eventually, he went and deleted all the pornography and included the pictures of that girl. I finally broke down, I knew his email password, and I know it’s wrong, but it didn’t stop me, I just needed to know if he was talking to anyone-more than just friends.He said it was to put an end to everything and I should never doubt his love for me. Well, I continued to use his computer and I would check every once in awhile just to see if I’d find any new pics of any girls. I was searching for a site I had gone to before so I pulled down the bar where you can see past sites visited and ratemybody.com, adultfriendfinder and others were listed. I understand what these sites are and at first I just thought he was going to them just to look at the women. So I found emails from adultfriendfinder telling him he’s got new matches or so and so was contacting him.
It bothered me because I didn’t really know, but I got over it and let it go.
I told him that I didn’t doubt his love for me, but was this someone he was talking to?
He said that I doubted his love for me and that it was just some girl online.
I told him I felt bad that he was looking at these women-but I felt even worse because I was the one who looked it up in his documents on his computer-I felt I invaded his privacy-I didn’t want to be one of those crazy girlfriends/fiancés.
He felt bad and said he’d delete everything, I told him no, I know guys do that kind of stuff, and I didn’t want him to because I invaded his privacy.