I also experienced that they’re unable to do anything on their own.When I ask them about how they got their cellphone or credit card they just answer they don’t know because their wife did it for them.Maybe they also think that a foreign woman might expect from their man that he’s telling his feelings straight out several times a day, something a shy Japanese man just won’t do.Another problem is that many of the Japanese men seem to be afraid of their English ability and thus fail to approach a foreign woman.It is by far not impossible and I know quite a few girls who don’t only have a Japanese boyfriend, but are also married to a Japanese man, but it is still the BIG exception!Some of us will go through a hard time here in Japan.Consequently they don’t see the need to study Japanese, because their wives will take care of it all.
As a result it is tough to find a date as a foreign woman here in Japan.
It might be a bit more difficult if you’re looking for a serious relationship as there are those women I mentioned earlier who either want you as “exotic accessory” or just want your DNA to create a cute “half-child”.
All in all, it is easy for a Western foreign man to find a Japanese woman or to have a nice relationship here in Japan.
Things that they fear a foreign woman would not agree to do (e.g.
stay home, take care of the kids, always pour new alcohol into his empty glass etc.).