Many people with intimacy issues have them because they fear being hurt.
As you can imagine, this makes getting to know someone nearly impossible.
That’s why allowing yourself to be vulnerable with someone else is so important. What if the one person you have feelings for has a lot of intimacy issues? Many people have heard of intimacy issues, but they don’t actually know what it is.
For most of us, these problems don’t exist because we enjoy getting close to people and sharing ourselves with them. If someone has intimacy issues, they share very little about themselves.
If they open up to you about something personal and you make fun of them for it, they won’t feel comfortable doing it again. So think about how they feel and how you’d want someone to go about helping you. Tell them that you’ve noticed their detachment and that you still want to make it work because they’re worth it and you can’t see yourself with someone else.
So you have to be accepting of the things they say. Knowing this and communicating honestly about it can help immensely.