Some in the church have colluded with this practice by not challenging it.
Worse, others have directly encouraged it on the misguided assumption that a sexual relationship within marriage will clear up the person’s supposedly confused feelings, or even ‘cure’ them of their same-sex attraction!
If you aren’t attracted to someone, you shouldn’t marry them!
All married people experience attraction to people to whom they are not married, and of itself same-sex attraction is no more problematic than any other extramarital sexual desire.
3)Be totally honest with yourself about whether you are genuinely attracted to the other person.
These times can be caused by all kinds of different factors (my wife and I have several young children – that can certainly put a dampener on things).
You might be responsible for some of these factors (e.g.