I punted for the football team, but never felt comfortable.I was always scared about my sexuality on the team, surrounded by a bunch of country boys and jocks who would definitely make fun of me if they knew I was gay.We danced to "Love Story" by Taylor Swift, which was a perfect song for my first dance with a guy.We both started the dance with our female friends who were our "dates." The final song came on and Jem and I danced for a brief time.
I also got teased by my teammates closest to me making jokes or saying sexual things, but I know they were just kidding.
(Photo by Jeremiah Carver) I was silent about my sexuality until my junior year when I told my best friend, Ben, who was a senior at the time and on the soccer team.
I waited until after the soccer season so I wouldn't have to worry about him telling any of my teammates.
It was my first school event where I was with another guy, even though we came to the dance separately. I posed the question by writing it on the dry erase board on his wall. My homecoming dance at Musselman -- two weeks after the dance at Jem's school -- was the big moment I revealed being gay to my school.
I held his hand when we went to get refreshments and when we took breaks from dancing. Jem was the date of girl at Musselman and her outside guest for the dance, while I went "alone." The girl knew Jem and I were together.