It’s usually only when I think we’re actually getting close to sleeping with each other, that I think it’s time to tell.
The first time I had to do this, I was completely terrified, but over time, I’ve gotten a lot more casual about this, which I do think helps quite a lot in terms of how it’s received. ” or just plain old “Okay……….” In any case, they never see it coming, so it does take a lot of gentle navigating from that point on to elaborate.
Generally I’ll subtly weave a trans topic into conversation to establish their feelings on the subject.
Assuming they pass that litmus test, and if after a few dates, there is a clear mutual attraction, it’s then a case of working out that sweet spot of the best time to say something.
My experience has been that once someone likes you, then being trans is more often than not, not a deal breaker, though sometimes, it just is.
If only I understood women as much as people may think I do! Many people are unaware that the clitoris grows into a small penis on testosterone, and there is a surgery that works to enhance what you have naturally, called the metoidioplasty. Our bodies change on testosterone treatment to become more masculine. I'm always camping it up and am not afraid to be feminine! being with a trans guy is really just like being with any guy. I am really comfortable with myself as a guy, so I often joke about my transition with my girlfriend and friends. I am very happily separated fr I'm the rare type of guy who walks through walls. My personal experience has been that, despite what many men think, women tend to care more about what’s in your mind and heart, than what’s in your pants.