"And I'm never staying past nine at any guy's house again. Very few of them were ok with a strict lover arrangement.Karen began hooking up with her friend Chris last April, who introduced her to a new sexual experience, and eventually, feelings of attachment."The first time we hooked up, I told him that I had never had an orgasm from having sex, while we were having sex," she said."He quickly let me know that I was about to learn." Turns out, he was right, and she continued learning all summer long.Besides the obvious fact that you are no longer dating, there are lots of ways your relationship with your ex changes after a breakup.You could never speak to your ex ever again, denying he or she exists and breathes the same air from the same earth as you.
I had been eyeballing an age appropriate bachelor for some time who was my ideal specimen; because let's face it, we all have bodily preferences. I said to him, "I haven't had a day off in six weeks and I'm finally free on Sunday. How about we go to the museum," he replied and the date was officially set. When I got there I thought, I got back in my car, drove to his house, knocked on his door and said, "Ummm, yeah. He was never a contender for a long-term relationship. What I have been told over and over and over again is that as I age I can anticipate my sex life basically swirling down the toilet along with last night's cost-prohibitive organic, vegan-friendly, heart-healthy supper. But the I had been dreaming about had moved from my mind into the crosshairs, and I needed to go in for the kill. His bike shorts and a t-shirt pushed me right over the edge. Many of us believe that on the backside of 50, life is over. As a menopausal woman, I have a ton of shit going on in my body. In the last few years, I have felt my libido waning and I have wondered, "Is that all there is? " Well, lo and behold a major dietary change and subsequent shift in not only body chemistry but my brain chemistry, sent my libido through the roof. I don't typically go after the country club hanging, golf club swinging, lawyer types. He didn't need a tailored suit to get my attention. If you want to roll over and play dead as you age, go for it. Then the clothes flew off in a flurry of activity, and we were in bed in a matter of minutes. It had been a long dance, and we had come to the end. I never would have shown up on his doorstep asking for what I wanted before I was 50. When Jamie realized that she and her guy friend Ben shared similar sexual appetites, she decided that it was worth a shot to invite him to visit her at school to see where the night took them."I instantly regretted it," she said."He danced to house music in the bars like he was at a ska concert, and was clearly more interested in getting a taste of 'the college experience' that his small university was lacking than hooking up with me."Rather than chalk the whole visit up as a loss, Jamie went for it anyway and ended up getting a lesson in sex-ed rather than getting off."It was the first time I'd seen an uncircumcised penis," she said.