In other words, if I can either write four short emails in an hour or one long email in an hour, my odds of getting a response from one of the four women I write is far greater than the single 35% chance from the one woman I contact with a long email.
This theory seems strong as long as two things are assumed: a) you have a relatively limited amount of time to contact people and b) there are a large number of people you wish to contact.
This approach first and foremost keeps your “weird” factor low.
Super long emails have a tendency to cause some people to think “stalker”.
All that said, let me talk a little bit about statistics.
I’m not a big fan of making decisions solely based off of statistics.
You can only get so excited about both liking pizza. ), is really into the idea that guys' messages to girls' should assume brain-deadness on the part of the recipients: "You need to make it easy for women and help them think to avoid ending up with message abandonment issues," he writes, suggesting that guys send girls messages that ask questions but also partially answer them, so it isn't too hard or whatever. Though much of what you'll find among internet advice on internet dating is bad, some of it is pretty spot-on and helpful.
Anyways, he's probably pretty trustworthy, because look below, at the stock photo girl he posted on his page! A lot of it is basic, but not SO basic that it hasn't kept hundreds and thousands of online daters from violating these EXTREMELY BASIC principles anyway. Make your message one that someone — anyone — could conceivably want to answer. Chiara Atik at How About We has an important checkpoint for that message you're about to send off: Does it PROVE you read the profile of the person you're sending it to? Because then he or she isn't going to respond (unless you are unreasonably hot, in which case, what's your deal? You might think your boilerplate message is a clever one, but anyone who's had an online profile for more than two weeks can seriously smell the arrival of one in her inbox.
You might as well find out right away if your senses of humor* line up.*Bonus advice: Please don't just write "I have a good sense of humor" and expect everyone to believe you. It's good to express enthusiasm for shared interests, but don't make them up, and don't be weird about it.
If you see a profile that you feel you have a connection with and are compelled to write a longer email, I think you should.
The idea that you must make a decision in a particular way just because an equation says it’s the action most likely to work is…well, silly.
Regardless of how strong these statistics are, my opinion remains the same: for your first email shorter is better.
There is nothing worse than reading a joke that isn't funny and then having the fact that it isn't funny, but that somehow someone else thinks it is, explained to you.