In fact, simply being drunk is perceived usually as improper behavior. Daydreams I think the sense of being treated badly described by the young woman mentioned above comes from something other than actually being treated badly. ” or “I’d like you to meet my best friend who lives in Ireland…” These remarks are taken reasonably to mean that the person speaking has future plans for the both of them. They are daydreams only; and they cannot be relied on.Someone wishing that they were a prelude to a formal proposal of marriage is likely to interpret them in that way and then feel disappointed and even betrayed when the other person chooses to leave later on.On a first date, the man is expected to pay for the drinks or if it is a dinner date, he will be expected to pay for that.
If a date is arranged, the woman (and man) will be expected to stay together throughout the date and not wander off with someone else they meet who seems more appealing.At certain points in a relationship, there are different expectations as to the proper role of the man and woman.(I am speaking here of heterosexual relationships, but things are not much different with same-sex couples.) These are more rules of propriety, rather than ethical statements—although at some points they overlap.Recently, I heard about a woman who had complained bitterly of being treated “very badly” by men.Immediately-- perhaps because I had been reading a thriller-- my mind conjured up images of her having been thrown out of a moving vehicle, such as a car or a train. She was referring merely to the fact that her last two boyfriends had broken up with her. The entire process of dating is marked by interruption and rejection.