Since my early 20s (I’m 28 at this point of writing), I’ve been regarded as a “power woman”.I can understand the source of these comments, for I’ve achieved certain noteworthy milestones in my life.For if it is really true that some guys are shying away from me because they are afraid that I would hurt them, just as there have constantly been guys who would feel intimidated by me no matter what I do (or don’t do, even), then it just means that… I try to help people where I can; heck, I’ve even dedicated my life to doing that.these guys aren’t right for me, be it as a friend or as a romantic prospect. I never try to change others because I believe it’s not our place to tell others how they should behave. I put my heart forward in whatever I do and I treat people with full earnestness and respect.The further I “climbed”, the harder it seemed for me to find a guy who could match my achievements.People often speak of the archetypal lone career woman who is highly accomplished yet barren in her love life, and I could see myself gradually trawling into this direction. Some friends have gone as far as to tell me that I’m the smartest / most capable person they’ve ever met, which I think is the biggest compliment anyone can ever receive.
Later on, I quit my well-paying job in P&G right at the start of a financial crisis no less, to pursue my passion to help others—with no prior skills or knowledge in this area.
I’m frequently interviewed in the media, occasionally TV.
(I’m quoted in this month’s issue of Her World Singapore by the way. ) Not too long ago, I went on a world trip for seven months without any companion or itinerary, basically creating my agenda on the fly.
Yet another reason could be my presence, which is apparently quite strong. When I asked him how he did that, he said my aura was so strong that it outshone all the people at the locale (probably a hundred at least? All he had to do was simply close his eyes and “follow the light”. so that I would not intimidate guys anymore, or at the very least, not intimidate guys so much that they wouldn’t want to woo me.
Often times, people could sense my presence right when I walk into a room (even in MRTs) and look up from their resting state. when I was already dumbing myself down / shirking my character was perplexing. However, while I was chatting with Rita, I asked her if there was a possibility that some guys would be afraid to woo me because they didn’t want to hurt me, say due to my longstanding singlehood.