It opens up a whole new world of people (literally), whether you’re disabled or not.There a huge number of disabled dating sites, including ones specifically for wheelchair users, such as Wheelchair Dating Club and Wheelchair Dating.One person, for example, may have more feeling in their upper body (nipples, mouth etc) and another may have very sensitive legs but have no feeling in their genitals.You may find this out by yourself, but probably not – it needs to be talked about. If you have no or limited feeling below the neck, that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy sexual pleasure.
What about having your partner laid on the bed while you stay in your chair pleasuring them?
If they seem receptive, invite your date to take your hand, or otherwise guide it. It may be difficult to be hugged in your wheelchair. If you want to hug your date and they’re keen to as well, reach out and invite them into your arms.
Again, be open and tell them to lean forward to hold you as close as they can. Everybody’s disability is different and you need to have the confidence to verbally explore and learn about each other’s desires, preferences and physical needs.
As well as pleasure, it can also diminish spasms and help with bladder dysfunction.
If you have spina bifida, you may need to stimulate other parts of your body, other than your clitoris or penis.