Of course, he might just be doing it for himself and for his future relationships, but if he’s working on something you’ve specifically complained about, or something that specifically drove you two apart, it’s a good sign that he regrets that the relationship ended and that he wants to get back together.
(And remember – this is something you should be doing as well while following the no contact rule).
only to have it disappear from your life almost overnight.
It’s enough to send most people into an introspective place, and a lot of guys deal with that by identifying things about themselves that they don’t like and working on them.
Instead, just engage with what he’s bringing to the table, and focus on being positive.
Just show enthusiasm and tell him you’re looking forward to whatever it is he’s talking about in the future with you (like hanging out during the summer or going to a big event together).
If your ex wants to talk through all the things that went wrong in your relationship – it means he’s putting thought and empathy towards figuring out what he could have done better.
If you can have a positive conversation about the real reasons your relationship fell apart, it brings you one step closer to getting back together.
Obviously, some people are just more withdrawn and private than others.