Dating my boss

When I said I thought it was inappropriate to go see a therapist with my boss and my dad, she said she would write it into my job requirement or put me on probation.

She’s given me two days to agree to therapy or write a list of all the reasons I won’t go with them and what I’ll do to change my behavior.

Yesterday, my father started giving me job advice: morning check-ins and updates with Jill, etc.

— things I do every day and have been doing for the past 10 months.

When I said I had done the task, she said she shouldn’t have had to remind me. Everything I said was met with a different criticism, I wasn’t sure what to do, it was late, and this wasn’t productive, so I didn’t respond to her last text (which hadn’t asked anything of me).

Soon after, my dad called to say that Jill had yelled at him for half an hour about distracting me from my work.

Jill is the chair of a nonprofit, and the job came with a good salary and a lot new responsibilities.

I was desperate for work when my dad said Jill needed a new executive assistant.She said I hadn’t forgotten to do the task from the week before and that it was a deeper issue.I was literally cornered in her living room, and I could see from my heart rate monitor that I was at 115 bpm, frantically trying not to hyperventilate.My dad, a white man, is writing the entire thing secretly; she hasn’t told her publisher that a ghostwriter is involved, and he is getting no compensation or recognition as she goes around telling everyone that she’s the only woman of this ethnic group to write a book on the subject.• She’s rude and cruel to me in front of others at meetings, events, and on conference calls.Once when I said the way she was talking to me was making me flustered, she yelled that this is how she manages people, that I perceive things the wrong way, and that it’s a problem with me.• She is always coming up with elaborate rumors about our out-of-state staff.

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