During my early days into the world of online dating, I did an experiment. That’s like having a hole in your pocket which continues to leak money right to your door step.
Keeping everything else equal, I wanted to confirm whether there was a correlation with income and the number of responses I received. Just digging deep into some code, whilst watching the latest episode of ‘Suits’. You shouldn’t be surprised if an unwanted visitor knocks on your door, or commits an act of theft in the night.
Ideally, you want to use it to complement and augment your existing chances of finding a partner.
But what if you don’t have any chances or opportunities in your day to day life?
And when 80% of the messages are either, you can’t really blame them for not responding to most messages—even if you personalize your mails.
The fact of the matter is that women receive far too much “unwanted” attention.
We men love to complain about how women have extraordinarily high standards when looking for a mate—however, we fail to look a little bit deeper at why this is the case.
While women may get an ego boost when they receive 30-100 messages in any given week, nobody really wishes to have that much admin to sift through.
How to fix this: Spin it on its head and give the headline more importance.It is a well-documented fact that they more money you have, the more attractive people perceive you to be.This stark increase in interest occurs in both genders, but it is even more prevalent in men. I’m not sharing this story to bash those who are attracted to money or call them out as gold diggers; the point I’m stressing is that your profile shouldn’t include components that will attract the wrong crowd.From the countless amounts of people I’ve spoken to and taught, those who have succeeded online sent out well-thought messages to as many people as possible. Some people treat online dating like they’re at a Pic ‘N’ Mix shop.So many flavours and tastes to experience, they become inundated with choice to the point that they just don’t know what they want anymore. Rejection is a massive part of life and is a prerequisite for success in any domain—however, that doesn’t mean that it doesn’t or shouldn’t affect us.