The process of courtship in China seems to be much more important than the process of courtship in the United States.
While there is a lot more sexual activity among younger Chinese, a lot of Chinese girls still expect the utmost courtesy and respect when a male is seeking their affection, especially if the goal is to be in a relationship.
Besides dealing with the whole “Yellow Fever” stereotype, there are certainly some things you should know before you start dating in China, so you and your Chinese partner don’t have too many surprises along the way.
Source: Keep in mind that these are all generalities, only based on my personal experiences.
These criticisms are 1) patronizing to the women who date foreign guys 2) slightly xenophobic and 3) not entirely unfounded.
It’s true that some foreign guys are just looking for a casual sexual relationship. Yet, the thing that tends to be left out of this discussion in the Chinese blogosphere, is that the people themselves are only acting as agents for the cultures in which they grew up.
If you’re single, new to China and plan on being here for a while, the issue of dating a Chinese partner will inevitably arise.It's not a 'come-on' and neither do they take it as such either. In western countries women are perfectly happy making their own choice when ordering food, in China however, most women expect the man to make this decision.Now, if she knows exactly what she wants, then fine, but you will find most of the time they will worry that what they choose may be wrong, or be something you don't like.Commenting on someones looks (positive comments) is actually normal within the culture.Chinese women may even say some form of compliment about your looks when first meeting you. If you intend to take your date to eat, then amongst many eating etiquette points, this one should be something you pay attention to: 'ordering the food'.