Even if I speak perfect Darija, am a Muslim and do stay with my husband I will always be an outsider and the inner sanctum that Moroccan women inhabit will forever elude me as an outsider.Moroccans are generous, hospitable, open armed and tolerant of others, but that is a layered reality.In hushed tones with upturned noses…“shhhh shoofi shoofi lala americania….” There are sides to Moroccan culture and relationships that I love, the ones that encourage family values, stability, longevity and togetherness.There are also sides that frankly I would rather leave at the door.
Moroccan women however are not known for their love of foreign women who marry Moroccan men.
In fact, if a guy wants to meet more models, he should spend more time near the venue of a fashion show, so he will be able to meet models there. In my marriage, I like her and respect her at the same time.
According to my personal experience, women who make a living by being beautiful may play games with men, as they think they are better than most women in the world. That’s why our marriage is very healthy and sustainable.
It started as a few stares here and there when we would go to visit Morocco, but when we befriended many Moroccans it became obvious that there was something else there.
Out of a handful of 10 couples all of the men had married an American woman first, and only my husband and one other were still married to that woman.