The attention of the tribe is a kind of psychic territory where we harvest the resources we cooperative apes need to survive.
He who controls the attention is high status and sexually attractive. When it fully sinks in, it will change the way you see the social world forever.
I thought I looked ugly growing up, I was scared to smile because of my slightly crooked front teeth, and I believed my appearance was the reason no girls ever showed interest in me.
And to top it off, for years I was extremely insecure.
You have to put yourself into situations where you have a chance to come in contact with women. If you don’t have many friends or a social circle, then you’ll have to get some or be proactive in other ways. And that’s when the attraction part of our brain was designed by evolution.
Pro tip: check out Meet and see if there’s any events that seem interesting to you. Cavemen who mated with younger women were more likely to have healthy and surviving kids, so now guys are wired to be attracted to younger women in general.
Shy women usually don’t have the same problems us guys do.
I talked about this in my video on social anxiety and dating.
Even if you don’t meet a girlfriend, you could make a new friend that introduces you to the girls in their social circle. Turns out human babies have enormously big heads to fit that big brain.
A woman’s attraction system is triggered by much different things than a man’s.
Women are also attracted to indicators that their genes would survive… Here’s how the excellent sexual evolutionary biology book, “It’s Not You, It’s Biology” explains it: In any species that survives by cooperation, stuff is gotten through social power.
I’m going to start off with the basics so that even a guy who is a virgin and totally confused about dating, can be on his way to having a girlfriend. So I had basically thrown myself into a social situation where it’s the HARDEST to meet women if you’re a more introverted or intelligent guy. So if you want a girlfriend, then you’ll need to do something different. Looking back now, it’s no wonder why girls never showed any interest in me.
There is no perfect answer for where ANY guy can find a girlfriend. It took me a few months of banging my head against the wall to realize the obvious: Women are everywhere. Script writers just write what people WANT to be true. The truth was, I was a loner and not a very attractive person.