grown up, because I had never even been tested for HIV at my yearly checkup at Planned Parenthood, where I went for primary care.Taking care of your health is more adult than playing house with a boyfriend, yet, even though I had been tested for STIs, I had never thought of getting an HIV test. Then I dove right into the questions that the women had given to me ahead of time. If someone makes you feel unsafe or unsure or uncomfortable or anything, you have a right and a responsibility to say no and to walk away. “How do I date without having to constantly explain myself? The trick is to practice saying it and not to be attached to a certain result when it comes to how what you have to say is received. ” A two-year study was done with serodiscordant heterosexual and homosexual couples.
We made complex weekday dinners to distract ourselves from the fact that we were both pretty bored with each other.
The women’s answers led to all kinds of great discussions about finding what we’re looking for when it comes to friends and partners. Ask yourself, would you allow this person in your life it you weren’t HIV-positive?
It was incredibly empowering and educational for me as a speaker and, from what the women shared with me, for them as participants as well. We are attracted to the people who reflect the vision of ourselves that we like see.
All HIV-positive pregnant women should access prevention of mother-to-child transmission (PMTCT) services when pregnant and breastfeeding.
I was recently invited to speak at the Women of Wisdom group in Clark County, Oregon, a support group sponsored by Quest in Portland, an agency for women who are HIV-positive. “How do I say no to sex and save face without losing respect for myself? If you get hurt or are in trouble, it makes it harder to be a good mother or friend or parent or worker or even just a human being. The HIV positive partners who were undetectable and had condomless sex did not infect their partners.