You need to assure your partner that “normal” isn’t what you want, that you want him or her to be happy and healthy.
That you don’t pity him or her and that you only want what’s best.
You know you’re superficially compatible, but what about the important things—values, life goals, political beliefs?
Let’s say you care about this person enough to consider spending the rest of your life with them.
I mean you need to understand how your partner has learned to deal with his or her condition as an individual.
The way in which two individuals can deal with identical conditions can be anything but identical.
As much as we try sometimes a relationship is just too much and time spent apart would do everyone some good.
It only makes him or her feel like more of a charity case.Of course, you will always be looking out for your partner, and it’s important that he or she knows that, but in order for your partner to be confident that he or she can live with the condition on his or her own, your partner needs to know that he or she doesn’t need to rely on you for every little thing.It’s easy for all the focus to turn to what is “wrong” or “lacking” in your partner, but always remember that the relationship is two ways, and if there’s trouble in paradise, it might be something you’re doing wrong and could have little to nothing to do with your partner’s condition.Dealing with a mental illness or disorder can be one of the most debilitating and discouraging experiences someone can endure.One begins to question one’s worth, one’s purpose and naturally, one’s sanity.