By: Alexis Ditaway Love is something that defies standard, goes beyond expectations, and breaks limitations.When it is real, it is something you cannot control, and something you cannot ignore.I have acquiesced to the fact that White people just don’t get it and will question in order to justify blatant abuse.That is standard fare and an unfortunate social norm of 2015.Even the attempted take down of Melissa Harris Perry by Cornel West, there is no parallel to be found.But yet, I’m suppose to ignore these messages and not balk at persistent defamation of my own womanhood.Promoting questions that further demoralize and demean Black women is not the support we are looking for.Then the dedicated platforms that regardless of the incident, spend time, make money off of promoting ideology that Black women are worthless, victims of their own stupidity and self-hate, are a serious issue that when brought up again Black men balk and seek to deny the severity of the issue.
Yet as soon as we ask can you love and support us in the same vain that we give ourselves to you, we are told to shut up and focus on Black men.
At the end of last year, 2014, I thought about writing a piece about my coming to the realization that there is a strong undercurrent of disdain for Black women perpetuated by Black men.
For whatever reasons I never took the time to put my thoughts down and flesh them.
Whether you are questioning “Black feminist,” sororities, national organizations, or your Facebook friends what purpose does it serve to question why aren’t Black women speaking out about #Mc Kinney when we could come together for xyz?
My immediate response is to question the quality of your wi-fi connection, because before #Mc Kinney, groups of Black women who cross over into any silo you’re attempting to call out, have been aggressively attempting to amplify the voice of Black women who are overlooked as we are brutalized by the same forces that attack Black men.