I can’t wait to have mine this morning …” Snow says being compared to food items is a normal occurrence.“On Ok Cupid, anyone can message you — you don’t have to match with them or anything — so I’ll just get random messages from random people and they’ll just be like, ‘my chocolate mami’ or something, or ‘I really like your skin tone, very unique and delicious,’” Snow says.
Now she resides in Portland, but says not much has changed.
“Specifically here it’s like, honestly at this point it’s defeating.
It just feels like a blow after blow after blow of people telling you that you’re not good enough just because you’re not white,” Pilai says.
I also had assistance from my white coworker, who acted as a control for the experiment by making a nearly identical Tinder profile to determine the difference in responses we got.
We created our Tinder profiles to state the same information: first name, age, journalist, Eugene. Seeing as my friend Snow had been dating online for about three years, I wasn’t expecting to receive any responses equitable to hers in only two weeks — but I did.