It might not sound very romantic, but you can’t argue with stats and figures and following a set of guidelines will probably help you feel more comfortable when sending your first message.
Netspeak is the main culprit when it comes to unsuccessful first mails.
Now that you’ve read the rules you should be able to craft a grammatically correct, unusual, and not overly confident first message that has a pretty good chance of getting a reply.
Theirs might be the most beautiful smile in the world, but pointing that fact out in a first message will most likely be a turn off.
Presumably men prefer a more confident approach from a woman online, and ladies the opposite, but we certainly don’t suggest going overboard.
A little awkwardness might work, but too much and you’ll seem more Mr Bean than Ryan Gosling.
Better to focus on interests, or even better, common interests. Talking about your own interests can give the recipient a good idea of what you are like.
It seems this is almost as important as talking about their interests so using any word that describes an interest or hobby is great, once your hobby isn’t too weird.