According to the girls, the “two main keys to maintaining a strong marriage are being willing to say ‘I was wrong’ and asking ‘Will you please forgive me.'” 5.
Perhaps the wisest advice comes from Grandma Duggar: “Many girls think they can alter a guy at the altar.
And like I mentioned in point #2, if you have your eye on a prize, don’t be afraid to intentionally attract him or straight-up pursue.
I’m simply trying to free you from an arbitrary, contradicting checklist that falsely promises to land you “a good Christian guy.”Is someone making burgers, ’cause I’m about to roast a sacred cow. ”What people seem to be forgetting is that you’ll learn 91.342% of everything you ever know during marriage. You’re marrying her because her current decision-making suggests a long-term value for character.
Never sit at home idle, waiting for him to call you. A man who truly loves you for who you are will also want the absolute best for you, which means growth. But that’s a lifelong journey you embrace together as a team of trusting, loving partners.
It’s not something you work out in your early twenties, late twenties, thirties, forties, fifties, sixties, seventies, or heavenlies.
Also, from a charming anecdote about retainers, readers find out that the Duggars, in fact, do not share dental fixtures. But in case you don’t want to read the entire 256 pages of the family memoir, we’ve highlighted below some of the best and worst nuggets from the girls, who believe you shouldn’t “put yourself in a situation where you’re alone with a guy, because bad things can happen.” They’re not saying “the goal is to find a perfect person.” Nor do they believe “he has to be the best-looking hunk of human flesh ever created.” He’s just got to love God more than he loves you. 3.“During our single years, this physical attraction, if not carefully controlled, can also be one of the biggest sources of temptation and struggles.” Sometimes you just have to go for it, Duggars. There are a lot of different kinds of dear Duggars. “If a guy cannot control himself with you before he is married, how are you going to trust him around other women after you marry him?If you use the phrase, “Don’t marry her for her potential,” in a discussion, it’s considered pro-level wisdom. You’re marrying him because his unflinching honesty thus far suggests a lifetime of honesty and vulnerability in your relationship. A good choice today doesn’t solidify a good choice tomorrow. Women have a tendency to date “fixer uppers” in order to feel needed.You’re marrying her because her heart posture has the potential to sustain a 60 year marriage. What we really should be focusing on are the qualities that indicate good long-term potential. Guys tend to overlook obvious deficiencies because… But neither of these issues are properly addressed by saying, “Don’t marry for potential.”Even if someone is a master of being single, marriage introduces a fat new batch of troubles (aka “growth opportunities”) to work out. You have an entire life ahead of you, so yes, it’s okay to marry someone for their potential to partner with you in living that life healthily and successfully.If you’re emotionally broken or scarred, go get healing. But if you’re healthy, the only rule you need to follow is simply to be you.Self-development is important, but that’s about you, not about what you think some random bro wants to see.